Whew. I FINALLY got back online. It seems I lost my password, and it has taken me all of this time to find it. Must be my age catching up with me.

The wee lil nephew is growing, healthy and happy. I am completely in love with him and has quickly become one of my all time favourite people. Just nestling that tiny body against mine makes everything ok, even if it is a momentary bliss.

My SIL has finally gotten it together enough to take her deadbeat ex to court. She is moving on, finally, and Hubby and I are both very proud of her. We have done all that we can to be supportive of her and to let her know that we are on her side. Unfortunately, she is moving on a bit too quickly and at the end of this month she will be moving in a with a man that she has been dating about 3 weeks.

Hubby and I have not yet met him, so I really can't say what is going on, or if he seems like a guy decent enough to take care of her and her son. I don't mean pay all the bills - but help out, do the step dad thing, be there when she needs a shoulder. I hope so. I honestly do.
Everybody deserves a chance at happiness.

My crazy ass ex husband has been popping up again.
Gah.
We have been apart for 16 years and he still feels the need to make my life hell. He has been cyber stalking me and, I am fairly certain that he is lunatic that is calling our house at all hours and then just listening...Of course, the number is always blocked. I am seriously mulling over a whole new unlisted number, but that would mess up Hubby and his work connections.
I don't know what to do...I am just so effing tired of this game of his.

The kids are out for the summer and I am happy to have them here. Soon enough they will all be moved out and I know that these days will only be a memory....I seldom see the eldest as it is, she is so busy with boys, school and work.

How about this whole Micheal Jackson debacle?

Yikes.

I can't recall saints and heroes getting the kind of send off that he did! Look, he sang, he danced, he wrote some killer tunes. He also did things most people would consider a sign of serious mental illness (the masks, throwing out his kids every night because he was afraid of germs, and baby dangling, just to name a few).

I feel for the kids. I really do. They are way too young to be orphans (although, if they had a mom they would NOT be) and they must be scared senseless. The good thing to come out of all of this is that they may finally have a chance at a 'normal' life. Maybe now they can play with kids their own age, leave the house without a costume or mask, have relationships with other family members.

I am just so tired of everyone making him out to be some kind of saint. WHAT? Since when do we canonized people that have been accused of child molestation? I can't say if he was guilty or not, but he spoke in an interview about sharing his bed with 12 year old boys.

Yeah.

If it walks like a duck.......

Some People

My husbands family drives me crazy.

No, seriously.

Hubby's niece just had a gorgeous, healthy, baby boy.

We are Caucasian, and the baby daddy is not.

He is Vietnamese.

He is also sweet, and they seem like a happy couple.

The grandmother of the baby wanted to know if we thought that the baby looked 'too Asian' and the great grandmother commented that he didn't look 'too yellow.'


Umm, what??

The family has been blessed with a new member, and this is how they react?

It turns my stomach.

I for one, am thrilled to bits that I have another chance at being an aunt.

I wish that the rest of the family shared our enthusiasm.

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I must be dreaming.....

Hubby and I went to a family event (his family, not mine) and we were actually well received!

No, really....We even had a good time and laughed a lot.

Ever the optimist, I am hoping that this is a trend that continues....

SIL has kicked the no good ex out again, btw, and he is living in a men's hostel.

I hope it stays that way.

Hubby has work this weekend, I am visiting my very favourite Aunt on Saturday and the Easter bunny is coming!

Life is good!

Sorry I have been gone so long. I have so much to tell, but little inclination to sit and write. Not cuz I don't want to write, just cuz I am so ...overwhelmed by the crap in my life.

My darling sister in law is at it again. She let that asshat back in after the whole lawyer fiasco. I am not getting sucked in, I am NOT. I don't care what he does, she is on her own as far as I am concerned. He can scale her second floor balcony and steal her pay cheque every week, it is not my problem.

Still, it pisses me off.

Hubby is still out of work. I am not sure what the eff is happening..I know that the economy is going down hill, I know that people are cutting back, less spending, yada yada yada..Still, there has to be some work out there.

Hubby is feeling useless, and worthless and of course, he is cranky. I don't really blame him. I know that so much of his ego is wrapped in his work and his earning capability. There was a time when we lived life large, no worries, money to spare. Those days are long gone and we are resorting to other methods to pay our bills.

We still have our middle daughters bf living here with us. I am really struggling with this. Don't get me wrong, he is a nice kid. Sweet enough, and good to my girl. He is also, however, a spaz that makes me crazy and I am losing my mind at the lack of privacy in our tiny house.

Add to that the fact that his mother (he is 17) pays almost nothing to have him here. My Hubby has not worked full time since November..In fact, his entire income from Jan, Feb, and March is $600. Now, the boys mother knows that we have no money but feel as though she has no irresponsibility to care for her son.

WTF?????????

Since when is he our problem?? I took this kid in out of the goodness of my heart (there is some goodness in there somewhere, I swear) and she has given us a whopping $140 in 7 + months. No, not a month, that is the total for all 7 + months.

Yup, then she has the nerve to call me a fucking lunatic to my kid.

Damn right I am. Who else would take in another woman's kid and give him the best Christmas of his life, pay for his grad photo proofs, his bus pass, body wash, tooth paste, everything without so much as a thank you?

That's right. His mother has never even thanked me.

Sigh......

It's not all bad news though.

My Hubby and I saw Motley Crue a couple of weeks ago with our eldest girl and her bf. Man, I saw SO much porn!

Lol. It made me itchy to watch it with my kid (even if she is 21) but we all had so much fun.

So, that's the long and short of it. Lots going on, too much head clogging crap. Life is like that, I suppose.

I leave with a joke that made me smile.

WHY YOU NEVER QUESTION A DRUNK

I was shopping at the local supermarket where I selected:

A half-gallon of 2% milk,

A carton of eggs,

A quart of orange juice,

A head of romaine lettuce,

A 2 lb. can of coffee, and

A 1 lb. package of bacon.

As I was unloading my items on the conveyor belt to check out, a drunk standing behind me watched as I placed the items in front of the cashier.

While the cashier was ringing up the purchases, the drunk calmly stated, 'You must be single.'I was a bit startled by this proclamation, but I was intrigued by the derelicts intuition, since I was indeed single. I looked at the six items on the belt and saw nothing particularly unusual about my selections that could have tipped off the drunk to my marital status.

Curiosity getting the better of me, I said: 'Well, you know what, you're absolutely right. But how on earth did you know that?'The drunk replied, 'Cause you're ugly

So I went with my idiot SIL to see her lawyer. She called me, as a last resort, no doubt, to accompany her to the office. Hubby advised against it, but I felt badly for her. I honestly thought that she was serious about leaving the jerk off and thought that somebody in the family should be supportive.

We met with him, the guy that she thought was a 'balmer', like in funeral homes. (Sigh...I tried to explain to that she was thhinking of an enbalmer). Anyway, his name was Balmer or something close to that...He seemed very nice and I think that idiot SIL caught him off guard. He fell for her act and I just know that she will end up with some amount of free work or something. She does that to people. Sucks them in.

That was over a month ago, and I have heard nothing from her since then. I am relieved, honestly, but it pisses me off. Once again, I allowed myself to get sucked in to her shit. Last week her almost-kinda-sorta ex grabbed the kid from school. (The Boy is only 5). Her almost-kinda-sorta ex is a drug addict that is still using. He is always drunk and when he has the money, he spends it all on coke...So he grabs The Boy and SIL throws her hand up in the air like 'what do you do' instead of calling cops.

Cripes.

I wash my hands of the whole thing. Hubby's family has been good to me and they only come calling when they need something.

When will I learn???

In other news............

Excuse me while I gloat.

My second ex husband is a jerk. I don't mean cuz he is my ex, but I mean a real jerk. He has not seen his kids in years, and has not even called them for birthdays or holidays. He lives one town over and has no excuse. His new wife treats my kids like garbage and erases all of the emails that they send to my ex. (She has admitted to this). She is an unhappy, miserable bitch that takes her troubles out on everyone around her.

My ex MIL on the other hand, is a peach. She adores my kids, and my new Hubby. We are terribly close, and I see her at least once a week. She told me a couple of days ago that when her mother passes away (great grandma is nearly 95), I am included in the will. All three of my kids are (two of my kids are steps to great grandma). Ex husband's new wife on the other hand, is not only excluded from the will, but she is not invited to the reading of the will.

Sigh.

I don't even care about the money ($1000). I just LOVE that I was included.

Maybe karma is not a concept, afterall, maybe, it's real :)

WTF?

No dogs smoking ice cream? WTF?

Anyway, things are pretty much back to normal, whatever that is in this house.

Hubby is slightly less cranky these days. I know that his frustration is due largely to his lay off. It has been well over a month since we have seen a pay cheque and we have zero savings. We have managed so far, but things are getting tense now. I have no way to pay all of our bills and it is weighing heavily on both of us.

Hubby's sister, the idiot with the jack ass boyfriend, is turning 41 in a few days. my MIL asked us yesterday if we would chip in on a birthday gift for her.

WTF?

Firstly, she is still with the jack ass and her son is afraid to live in his own house because of it. Secondly, no one ever remembers the birthdays in our house...not me, or the kids, or Hubby. Idiot Sister has never done one fucking thing to help herself, and everyone caters to her.

Thirdly, we are BROKE. The whole family knows it. Why would anyone ask us to help pay for a fake fireplace for an Idiot that deserves a kick in the ass. A fake fucking fire place? Gimme a break. There is another sister that works for some kind of factory and almost everyone in the family has one now.

Except us. Not that I want one. I'm just sayin'.

We loaned money to Hubby's friend more than a month ago and he has made NO effort to pay us. it is not a lot of money, but it would make a huge difference for us right now. Like, the amount that he owes us the same amount that we spent on food today.

He has no kids, pays $300 for rent and all he does is smoke weed and drink booze. He can smoke himself to death for all I care, after he pays us back. He had the nerve to ask Hubby for some groceries last week.

WTF?

Things are ok in most other ways. My kids are all healthy and if you knew what the past was like for us, you would know that is a miracle. Close enough anyway.

I went to see The Unborn today with Hubby and another couple. I used my gift card and I am pissed. I should have waited and rented it. I hope that Gran Torino is better. I'm watching that one on line and saving myself the money.